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20 Questions to Build Group Connections

Here is a great exercise for a new group. The instructions are pretty simple. Go around the group giving each person the opportunity to choose one question and answer it honestly. Anyone can follow-up with an opinion or clarifying question (no critiquing each other's answers, though). Once a question has been answered, no one else may answer that question.

If your group is larger, you may want to alter the rule and allow each question to be answered 2 or 3 times. Ideally, each person should end up answering 3-5 questions.

As the leader, pay attention to the conversation. Let the discussion run its course as this is how people in the group build their relationships with one another. You can use these questions, modify them or create your own.

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4 Conversations To Grow Your Small Group

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In your small group, you can facilitate New Testament type discipleship by regularly implementing the four following conversations into your group time:

1. Build authentic relationships.  Caring for one another and building one another up will occur more effectively if everyone in your group feels comfortable with one another. Spend time every time you’re together asking and answering questions about each other. Good questions can often launch your group into fruitful inter-personal discussion. Consider the following ten week schedule for your opening Q&A time:
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Groups That Play Together Stay Together and Grow Together

Groups that stick together, grow together. Relational growth within a small group context almost always leads to spiritual growth.

As we deepen our connections, our trust in one another grows, allowing us to be more authentic with each other and more open to correction from one another. When that authenticity and correction is prompted from and rooted in God's Word, spiritual fruit is the result.

Groups are often tempted to shortcut the "fun" times because they want to get to the "deeper" study. Unfortunately, without relational connections, most change is either intellectual or surface only and very temporal. Groups that spend time getting to know one another are far more likely to produce long-term, Spirit-prompted life change.

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Building a Sustainable Small Group

Starting a small group is just step one. Building a group that maintains health over time requires extra effort. Proper structure can lead to sustainability. I recently created this image to illustrate the structure we desire our small groups to build. Key ideas are as follows:

the primary purpose of the group is to learn to love and be loved as Jesus loved us.
members of the group are growing in Christ, caring for one another and together focusing on the mission of Jesus
each meeting includes food, friends, faith and focus
outsiders are welcomed and invited

Below is a brief slideshow to unpack these ideas a little bit more.

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Small group gatherings are not business meetings. They need not have rigid agendas or strict time constraints. Although effective groups often follow set curriculum, there are times when they can take a break from their plans and have conversations about their group’s health.

These five questions can be used together or one at a time. They are designed to help groups’ determine their identity, diagnoses their health and develop a plan for the future.
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Anyone Can Lead A Small Group. Here's How.

I truly believe that almost anyone can lead a small group at your church (there are always exceptions). If someone is a disciple of Christ, they are called to make other disciples. With the right tools and equipping they can disciple others in a small group setting.

THIS IS FOR YOU If you pastor a church with small groups, are in charge of small groups, train small group leaders, lead a small group, are in a small group, think small groups are a good thing or would just like to know a little more about small groups... I have something for you.

Below is a link to a kindle book which practically lays out the key steps anyone can take to effectively lead a small group (yes, anyone... almost). Even if you have no experience teaching, organizing or leading; the lists and charts in this book will empower you to launch and lead a group that grows together and ultimately serves together.

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