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Connecting People to Small Groups Shouldn't Be Like E-Harmony

Right now is a time when we are helping lots of people get connected to LIFEgroups. Within the next 2-3 weeks, I hope we'll see several new groups beginning and many people getting connected to LIFEgroups. But...

Sometimes, I feel like a dating service. Seriously.

People regularly want to connect them to a LIFEgroup, or they want to know when is the next event we'll have where they can connect to a LIFEgroup (an event I think would look strangely similar to a 7th grade dance).

I don't hate this part of my job, but sometimes I wish it could just be simpler... less institutional... more organic.

Try this conversation, for instance:

Q: Do you have any friends at Calvary?

A: Yes.

Follow-Up: Are they in a LIFEgroup?



another way this might go...

Q: Do you have any friends at Calvary?

A: No.

Follow-Up: Do you have any unsaved friends?



Seems simple, doesn't it?

Maybe if we were able to view "LIFEgroups" as a less formal program, and more as a life-sharing relationship, these types of conversations would make more sense?


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